1. You leave get-togethers feeling better than when you arrived
An excellent mommy group leaves you reminiscing and playing back conversations that made you giggle or feel whole! You know those times when you leave hanging out with someone, and you are left second guessing and wondering about your decisions, conversations and feeling anxious? Yeah, that is exactly what you do NOT need to be feeling leaving your mommy group!
2. YOU ARE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF WITHOUT A GUARD UP OR CENSORING YOURSELF
You don’t feel like you have to pretend to be somebody you’re not. You get to be yourself. You get to shine. You get to let others come to know you under no false pretenses or facades. It is liberating! When you have a mommy group of friends that fosters this authenticity in yourself, it is a sign it is an excellent group!
3. No one is talking about you if you are absent from a gathering
And if they are, it is in a 100% positive light and tone. If you have to try to decipher if something is gossip or hearsay, it probably is. I assure you that you deserve friends you don’t have to worry about if they are talking about you if can't attend an event. You don’t need to worry about that. An excellent mommy group won’t gossip about you or bait you on the internet groups (that you obviously will form) with drama.
4. You don’t feel inclination to compare. You only feel inclination to share.
Theodore Roosevelt once said comparison is the thief of joy and this is rarely more true than in childrearing. Sharing stories with one another in the spirit of openness and vulnerability is fantastic. Comparing and contrasting behavior in a good/bad lens does no one any good. If you and your friends have the spirit of sharing rather than comparing, this is a sign your group is excellent!
5. YOU CAN GO TO ONE ANOTHER FOR SUPPORT EVEN WHEN YOU DON’T NEED ADVICE
There is a difference in venting and needing encouragement rather than advice. A good friend can understand sometimes you just want to be heard and listened to, and not offered advice and solutions. Even if your friend can’t tell what you are needing at that moment, she does her best to navigate hardships with you without judgement. An excellent mommy group fosters a sense of support for all members.