Many women in our society right now perceive feeling judged about something, at some time. If you take one step into the internet, you will see it is filled with lovely individuals who occasionally like to insert their opinions on other's parenting, mothering, or any decisions. Well-meaning friends, family, co-workers, acquaintances often have a desire to help and want to do their part in helping new moms. For many, this includes offering parenting advice, even when not asked for it.
I find myself experiencing this often and as someone self-studied on etiquette (with major thanks to The Emily Post Institute for all of their resources), I had to put together a post on this!
Here are a few tips on how to handle these, possibly well-meaning, completely unnecessary remarks that you may encounter on the internet about parenting, in a Facebook group or really anywhere else! Remember, a lot of how something you say is received is influenced by your tone. And on the internet, tone at best can seem neutral and in many cases can appear negative, even if that is not your intention. So if you want to soften up your response, it may not be bad idea!
The gracious appreciation approach. "Thank you so much for that information! You are so kind to think of us. I really appreciate it!"
The approach that includes an action step and possible follow-up. "Thank you so much for that information. I will research that further tonight. If I have questions about it will you be available tomorrow? Thanks again!"
The change in subject approach. "I appreciate you letting me know your opinion. Hey, it's supposed to snow 12 inches on Monday. Let's get together this weekend before it comes! Would love to see you!"
The approach that gently asserts your position. "We are confident in our decision we made after research and lots of talking. I am sure you can understand."
May these responses release you from any anxiety or guilt you have about responding to unsolicited remarks or advice.